Letting Go… When Your Furniture No Longer Fits

I love the tabula rasa of a new space, and the creativity it sparks. Working with what you have is what I love to do!

But right now I’m working with what ‘we’ have. Eeek!

As the process unfolds there comes a point for clarity. Can our existing pieces be married to this new space? Are they a match made in Heaven, or just a case of trying too hard? Sometimes it’s just better to let go and move on, but only you will know if that’s what you need to do.

Like this piece, the china cabinet.

It was purchased new many years ago. Worked at the time, has served its time, but doesn’t fit our lifestyle anymore. I have contemplated storing the top and using only the bottom, painting it out, changing the hardware… a bunch of different ideas have come and gone. So the time has come to ask the real question. Do we need this piece?

The answer, no. And part of that is because of this.

The buffet.

This antique was passed down to me from my Auntie Sharon a few years ago, and originally it belonged to my Great Aunt and Uncle. I’ve grown up with this piece always being in my Aunt’s home, so when she asked if I would like to have it, blown away is an understatement. I had the mirror made to match, and together they are now a prized package in our home that I wouldn’t trade for anything.

So to let the china cabinet go was an easy decision to make. We got as far as taking the picture and were going to try and sell it… But then I read this article by Maria Killam ‘Kiss Your Old Furniture Bye-Bye‘. And we realized that moving the piece on was the goal rather than holding out for a price that might never come…

Yesterday we passed the china cabinet on to my Dad’s neighbours, people we consider friends. They were very excited to have it become part of their home. Did we sell it? No. Some things are just meant to be.

And another piece I moved on last week was my prized Papasan chair. Gasp! Yes, you read that right. Papasan! I’ve had it since college, written many term papers in it, and well, we’ve always just had a thing! Papasan has been my buddy through many moves, phases and stages of my life. Papasan was my one and only piece of furniture for a while in my first apartment, has seen me through break-ups, make-ups, and yes, even the nursing of my now 16-year old daughter! Curling up and nursing in a Papasan? Oh yes, it can so be done.

Over the years the wood has become more worn, the cushion was recovered, but Papasan has been like a favorite pair of jeans I just couldn’t part with. Well until now. This move has me rethinking a lot of our ‘stuff’, and when I couldn’t convince my daughter that she needed this very ‘cool’, comfy chair in her room… Mom, it’s not cool… I knew the time had come to contemplate farewell.

So when Kaleigh’s friend Jaime fell in love the moment she curled up in Papasan, I could see a potential new owner. With crossed fingers, but a pounding heart, I took a deep breath and asked Jaime if she wanted to become the proud new owner of my Papasan chair. I was seriously pleased when she said yes. But I won’t lie. I needed a moment when it came time to say goodbye. You know, to swallow the lump in my throat… Days later I knew I had made the right decision when Kaleigh told me how much Jaime loves curling up and reading in her new chair! This feels pivotal, like Papasan’s journey has come full circle. How cool is that? And who says this chair isn’t cool??? My heart is warmed because I know Papasan is loved and in good hands.

So there you have it. Two pieces that no longer work for us, and we’ve opted to move on. One with little attachment, and the other a piece with huge attachment. Neither for money, but both to new owners who love these pieces in their homes. The feeling doesn’t get any better than that.

Next… our love seats. We can’t replace them right now, so we’re working with them. If you need incentive to work with what you have, this article by Kristie Barnett, ‘Sometimes Better is Good Enough‘ might help you maintain perspective. It was a great reminder for me!

Do you love the furniture in your home? Have you tried to mix it up lately? Anything you need to let go??

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4 Replies to “Letting Go… When Your Furniture No Longer Fits”

  1. I can SOOOO relate to this post, Sheila!! There have been many pieces I’ve had to let go of, first when my husband and I blended our families and homes and ~ more recently ~ when we moved into our little house and discovered that many of our pieces didn’t fit (in fact, we still have some of our too large pieces to get rid of [i.e., a king-sized bed that fit the condo wonderfully, but squeezes into our bedroom here!]). The saddest give-away for me… when Brian and I took a vintage china cabinet that belonged to my Grandma down to Sally Ann. B & the SA guy stood at the back of the SUV waiting while I cried and said good-bye. The SA guy promised me that it would find a good home as he carried it away. I’m sad still thinking about it!! One day I’ll have a beautiful buffet like yours!!!!!

    1. Oh Victoria, this made me tear up and feel so sad. I can completely appreciate your emotions the day you said goodbye to your grandmas’ china cabinet. The perfect buffet will come along for you – you so deserve that! šŸ™‚

  2. Sheila,
    I’m so glad you parted with the papasan (not sure I spelled that right!) – it was definitely time. Can’t wait to see how your new digs “evolve!” And thanks for the mention/link to my post šŸ™‚

    1. I really enjoy your posts Kristie. You always have so many fun things to share and such great examples of your work. And, ug. I know it was more than time to move the papasan along. And I know it was really the memories I was hanging on to in the end, not the papasan itself. What a great example of emotional attachment to ‘stuff’ – now I get the guys and their overstuffed lazyboys… and that makes me shudder! šŸ˜‰

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